I’ve been blogging for about 3 months now and it was brought to my attention that I don’t have any posts about being content while single. The reason you don’t see much of that here is because that topic is not part of my journey to contentment. My relationship status has been one of the few areas where I’ve been more than content (which is probably why that is one of the only areas in my life that is actually moving forward). I loved being single and there was nothing anyone can say that can change that. I was not that girl that was “waiting for my Boaz” or “patiently waiting” or “letting Him write my love story.” No offense to any of those movements, I just wasn’t part of them. I was simply trying to live my life for God to the best of my ability.
You may remember me mentioning on one of my first blogs (“I had it all planned out“) that I spent most of my life single more than in a relationship, a lot of that was simply because I didn’t to much desire being in a relationship. I became used to being by myself and not feeling lonely, it became part of my life to not depend so much on another person. I grew up as an only child so I learned quickly how to entertain myself, enjoy myself, and to be honest I thought I was pretty cool. In addition, I’m an all around daddy’s girl so between my Heavenly Father and my biological father guys never really stood a chance. When I wasn’t cracking myself up I was with my friends or spending time with my (F)ather. I didn’t find a NEED to have a boyfriend.
“Well that’s easy for you to say Charna, you’re in a relationship now, you had to desire a relationship at one point!” On the contrary, My relationship did not come from me seeking it and it surely didn’t come how I expected it to come.
Do not misinterpret the purpose of this post. The point of my mini rant was to show that being single is not like what it is made out to be and not every young single person is sitting around waiting to get married. While single it is the best opportunity to learn self so that when you meet someone you don’t lose yourself. Learn your identity, find out who and whose you are. Learn how you deserve to be treated and what you will not settle for, have a strong stance on something therefore you wont fall for anything. Before you know it, while minding your own business someone is going to come along and turn your life around for the good and if you’re anything like me you’re going to hate it. lol
You’ll be like how dare you come around when I’m enjoying how awesome I am! You’ll go from having to be content while single to now having to learn to be content while in a relationship… but that’s a another topic for another blog 🙂
#StillSovereign
Supporting Scriptures
1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Hosea 2″19-20
Matthew 6:33
Jeremiah 29:11
Hebrews 4:15
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Laurane Simon
8 years agoThis was a great read, as all your blog post are. In a day and age where others make it a crime to be single and enjoying the moment, this blog speaks to the satisfaction that one must first achieve,contentment in life statuses. In reading this, I heard contentment and self love. You were able to develop and establish your life, prior to this guy walking into your life and establishing it for you. You aren't one of the many women that develop their identity around the man their dating. I hope that this post will help someone that needed to know, It's Okay to be Single. It's merely for a season, a season of preparation.
Charna Dove
8 years agoThank you so much for your comment and continued support. You are definitely correct being single is not a death sentence and should not be portrayed as a dreaded season to be in.
samantha dierestil
7 years agoGuess what!!! you’re getting married!!!………….I love this blog. This blog shows that relationship wasn’t your idol. You made God your Idol. You placed God before anything else. When God is your idol, you experience supernatural power from God.